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Thank You, Kim Edwards

I finished The Memory Keeper's Daughter in one sitting. Well, one evening. Technically two sittings, which were actually "lyings" - one in the bath, and one in bed.

And I really enjoyed the book.

I loved that photography and music were key elements. I loved that I didn't know exactly what would happen. I knew there was a crisis coming, I knew what it was, and that it had to happen. But I didn't know when, or how, or what the outcome will be. I liked that it talked about disabilities with honesty and hope.

What really resonated with me, though, were some of the themes. I want to write about the same things - family & space & secrets & the little choices we make to move away or towards each other. But even though this book is about the same things, it didn't say the same things I want to. I don't feel that this has stolen the space my stories would occupy, but that they would sit contentedly next to each other on a bookshelf.

In Douglas Coupland's last lecture at UBC (I am quoting Wendy, who "met" him after with much, much joy), he advised students,
"At 20 you realize you're never going to be a rock star. At 25 you realize you're never going to be a dentist."
I don't want to be a dentist. And although I deeply fear having big dreams, I am becoming more quietly hopeful that writing will be a part of my life.


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