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Random thoughts and musings that have nowhere else to fit:

Dance Dance Party Party was a fantastic success. I love my housemates, I love good music, I love the freedom to dance like an idiot and not care. I am currently in love with the song No Diggity by Blackstreet (feat. Dr. Dre). I don't know why it's so catchy, but it IS. This afternoon, I heard another song that has replaced No Diggity on the mental repeat: Golddigger by Kanye West. Just to warn you, the video's not appropriate. So click on the link and then minimize the window...

I managed to shortcircuit our heating system with a pin. Yes, it's true. I went to turn the heat back on after our party, opened the cover to our thermostat, and hit the poppy sitting on top. The pin went into the thermostat, and bye-bye screen. Turns out, it's bye-bye heat as well. Hopefully we'll get that fixed before too long.

The month of December and the completion of a successful party are ushering in our Christmas season. We have some fake greenery and a handful of decorative ornaments. I'm excited to see what Wendy ends up doing with it. Currently, O Holy Night by Josh Groban is being played.

I am not going home for Christmas this year, due to time and money constraints. However, all is not lost. My parents are coming to me (and Jonathan), and bringing the best gift possible: my Grampie. I am so excited. Except they're staying at my house and I'm a bit nervous about hosting my parents and grandpa for an entire week.

There are three different creative writing projects in my head. I have only begun work on one of them, but if I could quit work and do them full-time, I would. Oh wait, that's called grad school...

December is the only month of the year where I really detest Vancouver. No snow. No sunshine. No family get togethers (I know, this one's not as much of an issue, although I still won't be seeing either of my older siblings). No Christmas lights covered by snow. Just grey fog and rain. Maybe a little sleet. Some sunshine if we're lucky. And 7 hours of daylight.

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