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Things 1,2 & 3

Thing 1: The Friend

It is always good to hang out with a friend whom you haven't seen in awhile. Or at least, had quality time with. It is good to be with people that you have the freedom to both laugh and cry with, to be honest or to say nothing. It is good to visit.

Thing 2: The Dog

I never thought this would happen, because I decided in my late teens that dogs are too smelly and slobbery for me. But I fell in love. With a little dog, no less. A little dog that snuggles and sits and sleeps on your lap. Who doesn't smell or slobber. Delightful company and a good bed-warmer. If I'm going to be single, a dog is starting to make more sense. Seriously. Maybe I'll trade in the $300/month car for a $300/month dog. At least I'd get some affection out of it.

Thing 3: The TV

Arrested Development, 27 Dresses, Friends. How many hours of TV can you watch in a row? A lot. And this is not inherently bad. It can be the perfect way to unwind. Also, it seemed we were on a bit of a wedding-obsessed role. The second (of 3) episodes of Friends was one from just before Ross and Emily's wedding...somehow all three girls end up wearing wedding dresses and throwing bouquets to each other in the traditional "bouquet toss" way. Oh, the insanity of women.

As we laughed about their ridiculousness, we also had to admit that it is funny because it is appealing. Because something in us identifies with something in them that would love to dress up in a wedding dress and pretend that we are on the verge of the "biggest day of our lives."

Something holds us back. Possibly the fact that it's hard to come by a wedding dress for a day. Possibly because we've just never come up with the idea. Possibly because we fear exactly what ends up happening: Rachel, in her wedding dress, opening the door to her new boyfriend who freaks out at the ridiculousness that is woman.

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