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I Am Not Feeling Articulate

In 2009, I have watched two movies. Seven Pounds and The Curious Case of Benjamin Button.

I didn't find much redemptive or really thought-provoking in Benjamin Button (not to mention it is virtually nothing like the original story, save the aging backwards man), although I did enjoy it and was pleasantly surprised by its lack of gratuitous nudity.

Seven Pounds
, however, had me engaged and heartbroken. It disturbed me and made me angry, but it got me thinking about moral dilemmas, sacrifice, redemption and atonement (again), and a whole slew of other things.

So it came as a surprise to discover that BB is getting all sorts of nominations while SP is being panned. It doesn't make sense to me...I'm not a movie critic (clearly), but I wasn't captured by the characters or trials in BB the same way that I was Will Smith & Rosario Dawson. I know that the one is a fable, but it still had too many holes - like where has the daughter been for the past ten years? How was she completely unaware that her mother was caring for a child? And what is the significance of Hurricane Katrina? Or all the other storms, for that matter? And is there no resolution for the daughter at the end?

Conclusion: I would watch Seven Pounds again in a heartbeat, and would discuss it with friends. Benjamin Button was nice enough, and definitely endearing, but meh, it's all the same to me.

As I think about this (and wait for my banana bread to bake), I have decided what matters most to me in a movie.


ricolapak said…
Should definitely have put up a big spoiler alert up top, haha!

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