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Conflict Resolution 101

I have tried (in vain) to find a clip on YouTube. It is my favourite conflict-resolution-in-a-movie scene, and it is from Zoolander.

(edit: I found a better transcription of their conversation!)

The scene starts with Derek and Matilda approaching Hansel's loft. Hansel and Derek are model enemies, but this is the only place that he will be safe from the evil Russian woman, Katinka Ingabogovinanana. So they knock on the door, Matilda explains the situation and asks if Derek can stay the night.

Hansel: Yeah, you're cool to hide here, but first me and him got to straighten some s*** out.

Derek Zoolander: Fine.

Hansel:
Why you been acting so messed up towards me?

Derek:
Why you been acting so messed up towards me?

Hansel:
Well, you go first.

Derek:
I don't know maybe I felt a little threatened or something because your career is just kind of blossoming and mine is kind of winding down or whatever.

Hansel:
And I felt like this guy is really hurting me. And it hurt.

Derek:
And I felt like when you told me to, 'Dere-lick my balls,' that really hurt.

Hansel:
Maybe I was scared man. You're Derek Zoolander. Yeah, you're Derek Zoolander. Do you know what it's like to be another model and be in Derek Zoolander's shadow? You want to hear something crazy? Your work in the Winter 95 International Male catalog, made me want to be a model. I freaking worship you man!

Derek:
I'm sorry I was whack.

Hansel:
I was whack.

Derek:
No, I was whack.

They hug. They are friends. The end.

Comments

Mindy said…
Oh~ Zoolander. I hated that movie when I first watched it. Then I started liking it after a couple more watches and now I love it.

Maybe they're not as idiotic as I thought they were. Most "normal" people can't even share their true feelings with each other. Sad, isn't it?

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