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Things in Threes

1. This spring marked three years with my current employer. I have been feeling a bit of an itch, which has been remedied by three things:

a) I have changed positions and have a completely different job description for the coming year.

b) I read three books this past year that have really worked in my heart (besides the Bible, which is generally the most heart-changing book): Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Courage & Calling, and In the Name of Jesus: Reflections on Christian Leadership. I highly recommend them all.

[Even for those of you who don't believe in Jesus the way I do, I recommend them all...the highest-up boss of my company was telling me about a seminar he went to way back when he was a potato farmer & seller of farm equipment...anyway - he paid $12,000 to go to a leadership summit in Texas somewhere, and the guy started off by saying that he's a secularist, but to teach about leadership, there was no better place than to look at the life of Jesus (the basic principle being if you lay down your life for your people, they will go further than you ever imagined possible). And proceeded to teach the entire thing from the Bible.]

c) the things God spoke to me this week:
i. "Be strong." Still thinking about the implications, but the message itself was pretty clear: repeated three times, in fact.

ii. Mmm, this one's not going on the blog (yet).

iii. I forget what it was. That'll learn me to leave a post half-written for six hours.


MLW said…
Glad to see you are blogging more! I really appreciate learning as you share your life to various degrees and in various ways. Have an awesome week!
Suzanne said…
What's your job next year? I'd love an update whenever you can drop me an email. No pressure. :)

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