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Just Say No (to Children)

The new trend: choosing to be childless.

Good for population control? Helpful to the environment?
Further evidence of humanity's selfishness? Child-haters?

At the very least, this fascinating article from Macleans on couples choosing not to have children provides thought-provoking insight into our cultural view & value of parenthood.

(It garnered so much attention that they published a follow-up article.)

Comments

Hamid said…
How easy it is to have kids? Kids will empty your check-book and then some more. Kids will make a mess of the house as they grow up. Kids ruin relationships. Is it our choice? (Genesis 9:7, be fruitful and increase in number.) It sounds like an order to me.
Katie V. said…
I liked this post-&-link. So true. I've been thinking about this a lot lately (more due to the book A World Without Us) but the article hit all the points I had thought of and the ones I didn't know how to articulate. Not gonna lie: I still want kids. But it is a choice not a social obligation.
Katie V. said…
I wanted to fix that: it is a social obligation in the sense that we are basically indoctrinated by culture to believe that our lives are unfulfilled without children but being aware of that...I still want those things. I don't know why I needed to clarify that haha.
Beth said…
katie. duly noted :) glad you enjoyed it, and i would say I came to the same conclusion.

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