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Week in Review

Things that made me happy this week:

  1. Seeing my family. Special shout-outs to my brother and sister-in-law for hosting a great ool party (as he says, "no p in the pool!").
  2. Catching up with some of my favourite people whom I don't see often enough. Eating ice cream with them. Talking.
  3. The rewards of a job well done. Helping people learn and getting to meet tangible needs.
  4. Good conversations with my boss/friend. I have been fortunate to have boss/friends for the last few years.
  5. Reading Gilead. I recommend it, although it is meandering.
  6. Getting to tell people my plane got hit by lightning. True story. We were still on the tarmack.
  7. Helping my friends' wedding go off with as few hitches as possible. I like being "damage control." If I were to change careers, I would seriously consider wedding coordinating/executing.
  8. Dancing at said wedding, outdoors, under a lantern, strings of lights, and the wide-open sky. Beside the ocean.
  9. Realizing again what lovely and precious friends I have here. They would be there for me in an instant.
  10. Singing along to Vampire Weekend at Benny's while eating a delicious bagel and stealing food from my friends.
  11. Knowing I have a car for this coming week.

Comments

Laura J said…
You are lovely and precious also and, yes, I would be there for you as soon humanly possible. It warms my heart to know that you would be there for me too!

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