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Two Movies, Two Quotes, Two Questions

Brought to you by this past weekend and my friends with great movie taste. Watch these movies. Both made me cry, and I had to remind myself to breathe a couple of times, which is a good indicator of being drawn in by a movie.

Movie #1: God Grew Tired of Us - a documentary on the Lost Boys of Sudan. Over 27 000 boys fled the civil war on foot in the late 80s. Twelve thousand were still alive five years later when they resettled in Kenya after Ethiopia's government collapsed. This movie traces three of the boys who are sponsored to move to the US.

Quote #1: "What is the meaning of this? (motions to a Christmas tree) and how is this Santa part of Christmas - is he in the Bible?"

Question #1: How do I view my obligations to the communities I'm a part of? Do I even think of life that way? These boys came to the States and immediately spent the majority of their money and effort on bettering the lives of those they cared most for. While I recognize that sometimes a culture of obligation and responsibility can be unhealthy, I feel convicted to think more about how I function as a part of a whole.

Movie #2: After the Wedding, a Danish film from 2006. I'm not sure how to explain it without giving things is about a wealthy Danish family whose eldest daughter is getting married, and a man who helps run an orphanage in India. In addition to the plot line, I liked the cinematography.

Quote #2: "Do I have to live halfway around the world for you to help me?"

Question #2: I just realized that the thing I've been pondering most would give away a major part of the movie's plot. Hm. What to do. I can't give it away. So I'm not going to. I will tell you all to watch the movie, let me know, and then I'll let you know what the question is :)


Laura J said…
I should have posted first 'cause people are going to think I copied you!! Email me the question you're thinking about.
Beth said…
ha! i win.

just kidding. post anyway. i want to see your thoughts.
Hamid said…
so did you understand "After the wedding" that spoke Swedish and had Chinese captions?
Beth said…
hamid - not sure what you mean...i watched it with english subtitles. not sure if it was mainly in swedish, danish, or a combination of the two...there were hindi and english portions as well. but nothing chinese that i can recall.

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