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Mondays Mean More: Waiting

Last night I went to an Advent service at a friend's church. Advent hasn't really been a part of my church experience over the years, and I am still figuring it out.

I figured out, for example, that Advent is about waiting. Although I was highly distracted for most of the evening, this prayer grabbed my heart.

It is you.
I am looking for you.
You whose face will let me love
You whose hands will look like home
You whose path will unwind my longing
You whose words will still my fear
You whose arms are my belonging
You whose table is never empty
You whose shelter is never lean
You whose presence is kept as promised.
I am looking for you.
I am looking for you.
Amen.


I've been wanting to write about Waiting for awhile...I tried explaining this (briefly) to my friend Nadine tonight. She asked what I was going to say about Waiting, and I said, "How we spend most of our time waiting, but no one writes about it, talks about it, makes it into a movie, or really values it."

We wait.
We find it boring.
We are helpless.
We skip over it.
We try to short-circuit it.
We devalue it.

And yet, without it, so many things in life would be less valuable, less meaningful. It's the means to many ends. That's really all I have to say, because that's all I've figured out.

How do I wait well?
What is the line between passivity and healthy waiting?
What does my waiting accomplish?

Oh, there are so many thoughts!

(Anyone who is a better, wiser waiter out there?)

Comments

afro-chick said…
i appreciated this post. a lot.
wait wait wait wait
MLW said…
Hmmm...there are a number of things I could and would like to say but there is not enought space here :-). But quickly - your statement about us devaluing waiting is so true. God calls us to wait! There is so much to be learned in God's waiting room. As Christ followers we wait with hope and certainty - God is in control & answers/resolution will come. Waiting is not passive - do what you can about the situation & keep on living (think of your sister). Also, if you know God you never wait alone. What comfort! What does waiting accomplish? Check the bible to see what God wants to accomplish. Thus ends my thots, for now. :-)

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