This is probably the second most common question I hear about the baby currently in our care, right after, "Will you keep her?" It comes in many forms: "So, what's her story?" "Is her mom in the picture?" "How did she end up in your home? "Is her mom a drug addict?" "How could a mom not love such a cute baby!" I get it. It's natural curiousity, and I know I've asked similar questions of my friends who are adoptive parents. Who wouldn't be curious about this sleepy little bear!? But here's what I'm learning: a child's story is their own. And equally as important, the parent's story is their own. Imagine how it might feel to hear that for the foreseeable future, you are not allowed to care for your child. On top of whatever difficult circumstances you are already in - perhaps poverty, social isolation, lack of adequate housing, domestic violence, intergenerational trauma, drug or a
Our first foster baby came with about 18 hours notice; it was respite care, which means we had him for a few days while his regular foster family had a break/dealt with a family emergency. He stayed 3 nights, long enough to come to church and have a dozen people cooing over his little sleeping cheeks. With each new visitor to our quiet corner, I explained again that he would be going back to his foster family the next day. Barely a week later, we got a 9am phone call with a fostering request and by the same afternoon, we were snuggling her. This time, we had her for 4 days before church came around. Again, our community was keen to see the little one we had in tow. Again, the question, "How long will she stay?" And this time, "Are you going to adopt her?" Trying out the carrier... -- Here in Toronto, when a child is placed in foster care, it is always for an indefinite length of time. It depends on the parents' situation, and whether they are able to