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Roadtrip Tips

1. Pick a good travel buddy.

2. Do not forget your directions.

3. Pack your passports.

4. Bring snacks that are homemade and healthy, like hummus and veggies and fresh fruit.

5. An iPod is essential, or CDs if your car is old-school.

6. Car-aoke will happen. People should see you driving and wonder why they are not having as much fun as you are.

7. When in Sarnia, eat at Cosmo's Tavern. 

8. If you can, stop at your Grandma's.

sunset in Sarnia
9. Do not be fooled. Even attractive border guards will ask repetitive questions that leave you wondering about their IQ.

10. The border is not a magical bridge to a foreign and exotic world, but the asphalt is bumpier in the States, and the military does like to recruit via billboard.

11. There should be silly conversations, there should be seriousness, and sometimes there should be silence.

12. There are roughly 4 litres to a gallon, and $30 is the cost of half a tank of gas for a Chevy Cruze.

13. The destination should be somewhere with other friends, food, and happiness. Like a wedding.

14. Sometimes your directions will be slightly off, but if you are smart and alert, you can find a golf course in the middle of the countryside.

15. The return trip always feels longer. Except when it feels shorter.

16. Canadian border guards smile. Maybe someone just told them a funny joke, or maybe it's because you're a couple of cute girls. Either way, go with it.

17. If you realize, an hour from the border, that you may find yourself in a complicated situation at the border, do your best to avoid it by playing dumb. Do not mention anything to your travel buddy until after you are safely back into your country.

18. If you can, stop at your Grandma's again. When she packs you "a couple of scones," what she actually has packed is 8 scones, two large slices of cake, whipped cream and some crackers.

19. When your travel buddy says, "Are you still good to keep driving?" and you say, "Yep!" it is important to know that she is about to fall asleep. Five minutes later, you will also want to sleep. Do not sleep while driving.

20. Car-aoke helps keep one awake while driving. Soft car-aoke allows your travel buddy to keep resting (hopefully).

21. Clean your apartment before you leave, because it is so lovely to come home to a clean house.

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Heather said…
Sounds delightful...

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