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A Bucket List: 5 Big Dreams

On Sunday, someone I just met asked me what the #1 thing on my Bucket List is. I wasn't sure how to answer. Then it was expanded to Top 5, and I immediately knew the Top 2. I hesitated before sharing #3, because who knows how it comes across; we're socialized against that sort of thing. Thankfully, the conversation got diverted.

Anyway, I've been thinking about it over the past couple days, and thought I'd share the completed Top 5 list. Subject to change over the course of my life.

1. Live overseas for at least a year. (the US of A doesn't count)
2. Publish some sort of book. (self publishing doesn't count)
3. Say "I Do." (get married, folks.)
4. Become fluent in a foreign language & use it for work/life on a regular basis. (hopefully tied to #1!)

5. Go back to school. (someday, for something)

Let me know if you want to be a part of adventures 1, 2 or 4! Adventure 5 is kind of a solo-affair, and adventure 3 isn't an open invite. Although if you are interested...well, Nadine says, "Good luck."

(remind me why I live with her?)

Comments

Vanessa said…
Love this.
You should come to Uganda with us.
That is all. :)
Jess said…
all of the above are also on my list, or variations therein. Like be bi-lingual by the time I'm 25 (crap.... i need to act fast)
Beth said…
vaness - i'd LOVE to go to uganda. i just don't think that's the right job for me...unless you have a different description to offer? :)

jess - yeah, i didn't put a date on that one. actually, i didn't put dates on any of these. "sometime in my lifetime" is about as tight a timeline as i want right now!
mlw said…
LOL! LOL! LOL! A good laugh at the end of the day!
shellieos said…
Come to South Asia with me.
Be a travel journalist/freelance writer.
Write your book.
Learn South Asian avec moi.
Beth said…
mlw - i'm glad i know you're laughing at nadine, and not at my dreams.

shellieos - i would consider it, if i knew i would at least have enough money to survive :)
MLW said…
I am glad you understood what triggered my laughter. It was actually all that your wrote after #5. :)
sarahtp said…
OMG Beth. I have almost the same goals as you! (All except for #5… no more school for me!)
BigBrother said…
So I said I'd like to join for number 1 and 4, volunteered my wife for number 2 and kind of thought we'd all be involved in number 3. My wonder spouse pointed out that number 1 would be difficult with our family, but I say "whiner" to that.
Beth said…
big brother - if you all join me for 1 & 4, maybe we can go to a country where life is cheap enough that you can hire me as a caregiver, and that would take care of your wife's concerns, AND my job needs :D

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