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26 Secrets: Music & Absent Friends

I was going to post Saturday's entire playlist, because that is not at all my "work" and is very much open for sharing...but even though I tried to cut it down, it was still 86 songs long. Which would be a very long entry. I'll happily share it with anyone who really wants to know the whole deal, but for this morning, I'd like to highlight some of the artists I included because they remind me of faraway friends.


Chromeo - KIRSTEN! Thank you for calling. Can't wait to see you and hug you and sit in silence with you this summer. (Hurry up, time!)

Franz Ferdinand - Karen, do you even know I associate you with this crew? You introduced us. Also, you are my first ever "arts patron" and there will be an 8x10 photo coming your way later this month.

Shout Out Louds, Boris Smile - Alasdair, you have great taste in music. And I still think you should have chosen Canada as your vacation destination last week.

Headwater - Laura. Of course. I can't wait to trade Christmas break stories - India! So exciting.

Guster - Mav. I feel like we would have long conversations out of all this writing.

Hanson - Nadine, you were sorely missed. I am SO HAPPY that you're coming back to our home today.

Passion Pit - AmyLee (it's always one word in my brain), I love seeing art with you; seeing my art with you would have been phenomenal.

Andrew Marcus - Jackie. Oh, Jackie! Thank you for calling in the midst of your own crazily exciting weekend. I am so proud of you.


(Just to clarify, I chose the artists for my friends, the specific songs for other reasons.)

addendum:

how did I forget!?!?

Mutemath - DRay. You are like a big brother, and I wanted you to be there and be proud of me. Remember the time we went on a photo adventure to try taking shots of the massive harvest moon?

Comments

Laura said…
oh beth! Even though I wasn't present in person I was definitely there in spirit and prayer. I will always remember you calling me and telling me you'd seen these guys on the ferry. Giddy girl! Fun times! Thanks for choosing them to represent me!
Beth said…
yes! that is the exact memory i associate them with :)
Karen said…
Beth! How warm I feel to be included in music at 26 Secrets. Not getting to experience your show was one of January's disappointments. Franz Ferdinand is inextricably tied to that summer in Edmonton for me--so much so that I never purchased their second album (and probably wouldn't recognize the songs). Can't wait to see the print! Sooooo pumped!
Beth said…
Karen - i totally understand! i have an album like that from the same summer...

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