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Bought Nothing Month

I did it. Almost.

These are the thing I said "no" to because of my little challenge:

  • Incendies (I nearly went on a solo movie date, which I have never done. Then I remembered that I couldn't.)
  • Eharmony (They gave me an offer I could hardly refuse! $10 a month! Better chances of meeting a man with that investment than any other option in that price range, I think.)
  • Shirt (Glad I didn't, as I don't even remember what it looked like.)
  • Belt (If it was $10 like I thought at first, j would have bought it. But it was $35.)
  • Thrift store!! (Note to self: go thrifting next time I am in Guelph. Way cheaper than Toronto.)
  • The Fighter (Not a movie I really care about, but I missed out on some quality company.)

Things I forgot I'd pre-planned to pay for:
  • Massage therapy
  • Trip home (BUT I got a ride with a friend that halved the cost!)
  • Part of my iPod touch. (I had the second portion to pay the friend I bought it off.)

Things I Broke The Rules For:
  • Taxi (after a particularly late night out, I justified it by the fact that I had not paid for food, drinks, or cover)
  • Tickets (if the event doesn't happen for a month, it is kind of like I didn't spend the money yet, right? There was no way around this expenditure, I'm afraid...)

So. Success ish. Did I save any money? Not really. Turns out most of my spending money goes to meals and coffees with friends.

This next month I am going to try something really radical: sticking to the budget I made for myself last summer when I first got my nannying job!

We'll see how it goes...

Tomorrow I am buying a shirt. I have wanted it for months, and then my friend's tweet reminded me, and tomorrow I am buying it after work. 


becca said…
hiya beth. i must say, i've had this 'struggle' off and on since i became an 'adult.' i hate money. but i've found something that i love, actually brian found it. and he loves it even more than i do. it's called mvelopes. you should check it out!
it is an amazingly easy and secure way to keep track of your budget. you can try it for free, but it does cost $6/mo if you decide to do it. but it's well worth the investment i think. just give up a coffee or two/month and it's paid for.

also, if you can, i highly recommend going through dave ramsey's financial peace university. he offers very helpful, practical steps to becoming financially free. it used to be that when i would sit down and look at our budget and spending plan, i would cry at least twice during each sitting. but not any more!

also, side note, before we went through the dave ramesey stuff, we were budgeting $25/mo for clothes. brian couldn't care less about money for clothing. but one thing dave suggests in his overall budget plan is 5-7% of your income should be allotted for clothing. so i get way more money for clothes now! ;)

that's all!
Beth said…
thanks, becca! i am generally pretty good with money & not always stressed about it...but i did get out of sync before christmas and it's been hard to get back into it.

i am curious about dave ramsey, as i've heard a lot of good things about his stuff...
Russ said…
Have you thought about trying to track your finances?
Beth said…
Russ: I have thought about it, although I am a bit wary of storing that sort of data online. Also, the problem is pure self-control. I know where my money goes...I just keep putting it there when I need to hold back. TOO MUCH EATING OUT!

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