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Questions for the Masses

Should I be concerned about a spider bite that is still present and sometimes itchy after 3 weeks?? (I'm not going to hatch spiders out of my shoulder am I!?!?!?!?)

How should I cut my hair on Saturday? Like this? Or this? Or something else?


afro-chick said…
i like the first one, cause it's fall. fall makes you feel cold? you lose heat form your head?

hmm. i need a haircut/hairshape badly.

time for another visit to tronts with a haircut to boot!
Lisa said…
That would be so cool if you had spiders hatching out of your shoulder!! Be sure to take pictures! :)

As long as you're not experiencing symptoms besides some mild itching, I don't think you have anything to worry about (unless the bite looks like these photos here:
Thom said…
My understanding of spider bites is this:
- if the venom is dangerously toxic, you would be dead or very ill by now
- if the venom is not too toxic, lightly scratching/touching it will actually help it heal, I think by delivering more blood to it (I was told this works, counter to mosquito bites)
- if the venom is radioactive, you would have great powers and correspondingly great responsibility by now

Also speaking of brown recluse spiders:

As to hair, I think I like the longer (first) one better, but also I wouldn't trust a man's opinion about hair.
Beth said…
afro-chick: you can also throw in a visit with lil' ol' me!!!

lisa: gross. pretty sure that would have already happened...

thom: you're saying you've not heard the stories of my super-powers yet!??!?! also, man-opinions matter most on my hair, since in the end, they're the ones i want to attract. (i mean that in the most non-desperate way possible)

everyone: i'm leaning towards something in the mid-length, assymetrical bob range.
shellieos said…
MLW said…
Re: pumpkin anything - according to Amy V.(M)'s post on facebook, Chapman's has a Praline Pumpkin Pie icecream. If I see it in the stores I will let you know where.

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