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Life Lessons from My Girlfriend's Boyfriend

I paid no attention to the description of Mike Birbiglia's show when I bought tickets to see him this past weekend. He could have been scheduling shows about airport pavement and I would have paid to listen...By the time I went, I had learned that the show, called My Girlfriend's Boyfriend, tells the story of his courtship with his wife, Jenny.

I wasn't expecting my faith in love and marriage to be bolstered by a comedic monologue. Especially after Mike tells the audience that he and his friend Andy successfully stopped or postponed 5 marriages after college. But in this series of flashbacks, rabbit trails, and major moments in his relationship with Jenny, there is

hilarity (seeing people makeout is "like watching a dog eat spaghetti"),
drama (of his seven reasons for being anti-marriage, he is most passionate that people should not fake religious beliefs simply to have a ceremony in a building),
empathy & sympathy (red flag #3 in a relationship...she doesn't want you to tell anyone you're dating), and
poignancy.

I didn't anticipate that four days later, I would still be thinking about this show on a meaningful level. Yes, I'm still chuckling at his description of The Scrambler, a poor choice at the fair when you want to impress a girl. And I'm shaking my head at the completely incompetent police report filed after he was T-boned by a drunk driver.

But on top of all that, I'm thinking about what love looks like. I keep hearing the very last thing he says, as he ends up choosing to marry Jenny.

I can't bring myself to spoil the ending of a fantastic show by attempting to explain the story or sharing the last statement. And maybe it's more touching to a couple of mid-twenties girls than most other people. But he is on to something - he's on to something with his motivation for marriage, and he's on to something with his brand of comedy with a touch of honesty.

This audio clip is taken from This American Life on NPR, and is where the title for his show originates.

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Anonymous said…
Listening to this brought back great memories of Fun City. The days of Mike live on. When I heard him say "Awesome" all I could hear was Andrew:) L

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