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Women I Want To Be (There Are None)

Chatting with Alasdair this afternoon, and we came 'round to talking about the future, and all the exciting possibilities that exist (a common topic in my life right now, as all that exists is "possibility"). Our conversation went thusly:Alasdair:have you heard of kevin kelly he's the kind of guy i want to be.4th person to be on the internet... me: i have not heard of him before, but i DO know of several of the organizations he's been involved with.
and it sounds like he might love Jesus?
Alasdair: he certianly does
he was interviewed on TAL about it
not listened to it yet though
me: sweet.
i need to find some women i want to be like.
i don't know any.
i have been thinking a lot about what i want to be in my life for this next chunk of time...but not about anyone whose example i'm really impressed by.
i just googled "women i want to be" - not an impressive hit among the results.
Alasdair: haha everyone has flaws
me: no, not even that - i mean, i can't think of anyone who is doing well at the things that i'm excited about.
Alasdair: and what are you excited about?
me: lots of things. but mainly - travel/culture. literature/the arts. women's development. holistic living. Jesus.
i think that is the short list.

This is the screenshot of my Google search:

Well, thank you Google for that massive fail.

I tried a few variations on this phrase, looking for something that suggests women who are role models, doing things, going places... no luck. And this is without even adding in any of the specific areas I'm interested in.

(insert rant on all that is wrong with the world, its perception of women, and the internet as a source for relationship/sex advice)

So now I'm looking for role-models. Lady-crushes, if you will. Please suggest any you like, or share with me your own lady-crushes: who and why. (on my list, Anne Lamott is the only possibility so far.)


Laura J said…
I was almost offended then I realized you want a list of famous women. As much as Anne Lamott has interesting things to say and is definitely thought provoking I don't think you should strive to be her for many reasons we can discuss at a later time. I will think of some and get back to you.
Beth said…
Ah, Laura. indeed, i meant famous people. there are many ladies like you in my life that i love and respect and actually know. :)

and yes, Anne Lamott isn't quite the person I want to be like. although her dreads are fantabulous.
Terra said…
I want to be like Beth Moore, minus the hair, the accent, the bad dressing and Texas. But I will take her passion, her focus, her love for God's word, her teaching abilities, her impact, and her love for Christ. Amazing Bible teacher. amazing.

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